• Life Lesson 101

    “Courage is the discovery that you may not win, and trying when you know you can lose.” Tom Krause

    As I prepare to fly to Dallas today, I think about the many times I prepare myself for the routines of flying. Getting to the airport 2 hours before your flight leaves, getting through security, and then boarding the plan. Once on the plane, how many times do we tune out the flight attendant when they go through the emergency procedures should the plane falter in some way? I try not to think about the plane going down, but force myself to listen

    and take heed of the following direction, “If you are travelling with small children, put your mask on first and then assist them with theirs.” Wonder of wonders, of course! I knew that! How useful is that one statement in our everyday lives?

    For those of us who are natural caretakers, it is important that we put our masks on first. In order to do so in a responsible way however, it’s crucial that we to take care of ourselves FIRST, before attempting to care for others. Why? It’s not about being selfless as much as being selfish long enough to stabilize ourselves for the journey… To prepare to do battle with or support others in what they need.

    How many times do we delay our dreams because we want to help others first? “I have to wait because my kids need me, or I can’t do that because my significant other needs this or that?” Our health and strength need to be up to par as we nurse others back to health. We must be financially stable before lending financial assistance to others.

    There are instances when it certainly makes sense to delay/ slow down your secret dream and then there are those situations where the expectations of other simply overpower our focus. Ask yourself these questions:

    • What would happen I didn’t give as much of myself to this person / situation?
    • Would the other person(s) be just fine with less help from me?
    • Would they be able to survive without me?
    • If I gave as much effort to myself as I’ve given to this person / situation, would I be closer to where I want to be?

    If the answer to these questions is “Yes”, then you have all the information you need to make your next move. Many times ego gets in the way and we want to be needed or feel a sense of power when we are critical parts of other’s lives. Do we really need to be? Even more toxic to ourselves and others, is that these very reasons become barriers as to why our dreams are delayed.

    Let’s drum up the courage to name it and change our direction.

    You have everything within you to make it happen. Do you dare put your mask on first?