How many of us step into a situation thinking, “This job is below what I’m capable of doing. Why am I even considering taking it?” “I’ve been out of work for so long and needed the money… Why did I accept this one?” Other questions that I’ve asked myself, specifically days after I interviewed, was offered, and accepted the current role that I’m in (7.5 years ago)… “What in God’s name did I just do? I can’t do this? Do they really know who they just hired? How long will it be before they find out the truth about me? I don’t know what I’m doing and am going to fail!” I said it… I truly did. And not just said it. I was crying my eyes out to the point where the only thing left to do was make a phone call to Mom.
It was January 1, 2006, 2 days before my first official day in my new job, and here I am having serious doubts about this dare that I just made to myself… to see if I can conquer this huge responsibility in the firm’s largest office.. to manage a huge responsibility with the largest number of people who I’d ever had directly reporting to me. What in the world? And Mom Causley, in her sweetest voice (God rest her soul) said to me, “Girl, you’re going to go in there and do what you do. You’ll learn what you need to learn, grow where you need to grow and if I know you, you’ll be out of there in no time on to your next job!” Moms are great! She knew what I was capable of doing and spoke to every fear that I knew existed when I went for the job. My fears were a large part of why I applied in the first place.. to push myself beyond my self-imposed limits.
No matter how much confidence and bravado we have, or don’t have, there is always that little voice that tells you that you can’t do it. In the coaching world, we call them gremlins. I have mine, you have yours…. I have learned to use those voices for my good.. to push me forward, and to not talk me out of the challenge. As fearful as I may be, I’m moving forward, dog-gone-it! I’m going to DO THIS! (neck roll, hands on hips, and much attitude!)… and then guess what? Once I experience what the universe brought to my doorstep, I accept it and use it for what it has to show me, which at times are triumphant and other times humbling experiences. I stay in it long enough to know the reasons why I’m there, change what’s necessary in order for me to be stronger, more aware, and now more equipped for the next challenge. At times, I introduce the next thing (because my list if never-ending) or the universe will bring me something else… and so the story goes!
What blessing that is disguised as a challenge / pain are you overlooking? Make a step towards tackling it. I promise you your life will never be the same again. You’ll find yourself in places that you’ve never imaged!